Yesterday, I stumbled upon this article by Verily Magazine about some of the well meaning, but often affronting things that single people hear from the sweet married couples in their lives. As a single girl I think I've heard just about all of them. It was pretty funny, you'll have to check it out!
These words are most always said out of love and a desire to sympathize, and truth be told, I don't get annoyed by any of them, but there is a sentiment expressed in this article that I really want to point out to the marrieds who may have forgotten what the singles really want:
Most single people would like for you to be actively involved in their dating life.
You read that correctly, most single people are really hoping that someone who knows them well will introduce them to their future spouse. That doesn't mean they want you to start setting them up with anyone and everyone, but it is comforting to know that someone else is keeping you in mind when they meet other singles.
An alternative to all of the things on the Verily list is to say: "Tell me what you're looking for, and I'll keep my eyes open." And, "I'll be praying that he/she is getting ready for you while you get ready for him/her." Positive, expectant, hopeful words are the best.
Getting to know the single person will help you know what to look for, too. They'll be so grateful. I know I am very thankful for all of the dear couples in my life watching for that special guy. :)
Any thoughts on this? Singles? Marrieds? Newlyweds? Do you have a story about a match made by mutual friends?
I have to say, one of the biggest annoyances would be when someone would ask, "So...dating anyone yet?" as if something was broken with me that I wasn't paired up. I truly believe that a successful partnership is formed when two people are comfortable with their "singleness" first. That said, it is nice to have someone say, "I'll keep you in mind if I meet someone you'd like."
ReplyDeleteI agree! There's nothing wrong with a single person. They're who God made them to be no matter what! :) They shouldn't ever be made to feel incomplete.
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